Do You Need To Be Perfect?

Perfectionism relies on a person avoiding areas in which they need improvement. You’re likely to hear them say, "I’m not perfect, but…" while talking about the actions of other people. Clearly their goal is to be beyond criticism. That never happens. In fact, it stunts your potential. Self-confident people realize, the need to improve, is the key to an enjoyable life. No guilt. No fear. No self-criticism. As perfectionists take the beginning steps to improve one thing, they slowly build their sense of confidence. As their lives become more enjoyable they will see the need to take risks. They - more than anyone - will appreciate the knowledge gained through mistakes. Ironically, those people who aren’t so perfect can spot a problem a mile away. If you are teamed up in a relationship or business venture with someone consumed with quality, your self-confidence may also be taking a hit. You learn early on you’ve got to set boundaries. Don’t be a venting board for the mistakes your partner sees in life. The constant criticism will force you to doubt how the person really feels about you. Make your own decisions. Emotionally it may hurt your friend to see you try and fail, but it’s important for you to build confidence. Let them know you appreciate their ideas, but you need to do some things on your own. Demand respect. "I told you so," is an ugly thing to say, and it’s even worse to hear. The people close to you should be able to congratulate you on a job well done and encourage you to try again, not brag about how if they had tried, they would have succeeded. Make sure your perfectionist partner knows you need their support, and be sure to point out when you aren’t getting it. Whether you are the perfectionist or you’re just close to one, this mindset can wreak havoc on your self-confidence. Focus on actions driven by dreams, and break tasks into smaller pieces to boost positive, realistic improvement in your life.