The Road To Success In Marriage

The road to success can be can be very rocky no matter what area of your life you wish to succeed.

Lily Tomlin (the actress) once said: "In Hollywood a marriage is a success if it outlasts milk!"

Isn’t that the truth? We all say or think the same thing whenever there’s an announcement of a Hollywood marriage, and that is "how long will it last?" We don’t expect their marriages to go the distance.

Why do we think like that? The answer I think is that because actors live in such artificial surroundings, they cannot cope with reality. Their working life is a fantasy and when they step out and do something "normal" they just can’t cope.

I’ve heard some of them say that it’s because they both work in the same industry and they often work away from home for a few months at a time. To me that sounds like such a lame excuse. I know of couples who both work in the armed services and can be separated from each other for up to 6 months at a time, and they pick up their relationship from where they left off.

The only reason you don’t succeed in a relationship is because you haven’t created the picture in your mind of the person you want to be to attract the right person into your life.

The road to success in marriage begins with your thoughts, feelings and actions and if any one of them is out of alignment then you need to rectify it as soon as possible to keep the balance in your life.

"Marriage is really tough because you have to deal with feelings…and lawyers!" Richard Pryor (1940-2005)

Personal development leads to success and is an ongoing learning experience. Achieving success in your relationships and every aspect in your life can be obtained by furthering your education.

 

Tips For Success

Everything that happens to us happens on purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.

Have you ever watched “Patch Adams” the movie? It’s one great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to seek medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself into a psychiatric ward.

His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people. He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he had to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he had gone through, he still wanted to become a doctor. He carries with himself a positive attitude that brought him self improvement and success. He didn’t only improve himself, but also the life of the people around him and the quality of life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best doctor his country has ever known.

So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start?

*Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?

*When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty.

*When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.

*The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self improvement.

*Take things one at a time. You don’t expect black sheep’s to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.

*Self improvement results in inner stability, personality development and …. SUCCESS. It comes from self confidence, self appreciation and self esteem.

* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement doesn’t turn you into the exact replica of Cameron Diaz or Ralph Fiennes. It aims to develop an improved and better YOU.

*Little things mean BIG things to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day”, are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.

*When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitudes hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, he/she would most likely decline an invitation for self improvement.

We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘overnight success’. Its always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for. There’s an old quote which says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for self improvement, we increase our chances of living a life of success.

Escaping From Peer Pressure

Wikipedia’s interpretation of peer pressureis: "Peer pressure is a term describing the pressure exerted by a peer group in encouraging a person to change their attitude, behavior and/or morals, to conform to, for example, the group’s actions, fashion sense, taste in music and television, or outlook on life". Our kids really do have a tough time when they’re teenagers. In a lot of cases they’re not being allowed to express their individuality because of the fear of being ridiculed by their peers. I left school over 40 years ago and nothing’s changed. There’s always been pressure to conform to the group, and if you don’t, then you’re left to feel like an island in the middle of the ocean. What can we as parents do about it? You can go to the school and talk to teachers about it, but realistically they haven’t got the time to sort it out and most likely they wouldn’t be able to anyway. This is something that the kids unfortunately, have to do for themselves. The best way I know is to build up your child’s self esteem so that they won’t even bother with the peer group. Being confident within themselves is the greatest barrier to hurt and intimidation by others. When my children were teenagers, they were all introduced to the world of "self development" with Bob Proctor, motivator and coach, which I believe has moulded them into the intelligent, confident adults they are today. I believe that Personal Development should be a subject on the school’s curriculum, starting from the first year of school. Just think what that would do for our kid’s futures! To learn more about Bob Proctor’s programs and how they can help you and your teens, click HERE now!

Jack Canfield

The very first seminar I ever went to was Jack Canfield’s “Self Esteem And Peak Performance” in 1989. My journey on the road to self improvement started there and I’m still learning!

Jack Canfield is an American motivational speaker and author. He is best known as the co-creator of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” book series. According to USA Today, Canfield and his writing partner, Mark Victor Hansen, were the top-selling authors in the United States in 1997.

Canfield is the founder of “Self Esteem Seminars” in Santa Barbara, and “The Foundation for Self Esteem” in Culver City, California. The stated mission of Self Esteem Seminars is to train entrepreneurs, educators, corporate leaders and employees to achieve their personal and professional goals. The focus of The Foundation for Self Esteem is to train social workers, welfare recipients and human resource professionals.

In 1990, he shared with Hansen his idea for the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. After three years, the two had compiled sixty-eight stories.

Canfield’s book, “The Success Principles” (2005), shares 64 principles that he claims can make people more successful. In 2006, he appeared in the DVD, “The Secret”, and shared his insights on the Law of Attraction and tips for achieving success in personal and professional life.

His newest book is “Key to Living the Law of Attraction” & Companion Gratitude Journal. This book is a simple ‘how to’ guide for using the Law of Attraction to create the life you desire. Within these pages, Canfield clearly explains not only what you need to know, but what you need to do in order to attract what you want in your life.

Jack Canfield has also collaborated with Bob Proctor, another contributor to “The Secret”, to run their successful coaching program “The Science of Getting Rich”. This is where Proctor and Canfield have distinguished themselves… they Understand… they Apply… and they are Masters at Transferring the Science of Getting Rich to others. They are two of the most powerful coaches in the world today.

Read more on “The Science of Getting Rich” and how these two phenomenol men can help change your life forever, by clicking HERE.